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Why You Should Never Be Scared OfApproaching Women
Adamzy > 11-02-2013, 09:15 PM
Bella went shopping for her mom at the
supermarket where she met this cool guy whom
she could tell was her type. Immediately several
thoughts were flooding through her head: Does he even notice me?
Will he approach me?
Is he normal?
I have to do something subtle to draw his
attention?
I hope he’s worth it. So she went closer to the guy and stumbles a bit to
let some items fall out from her cart and then bends
down to start picking them up:
Guy: Need some help?
Bella: No, i can take care of it.
Guy: Okay, suit yourself.
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As she’s busy picking up her things hastily, this guy
kept staring at her and he could see that she was
beautiful and almost his type if only he could
summon the guts to approach her and do the right
things.
So he thinks: She’s beautiful and i need to ask her for her name…
No No No! It doesn’t work that way. she may
decide to not talk to me at all and that will make me
look so awkward…
Okay, let me just help her pick up somethings,
maybe we can start a conversation from there… No No No! she already said she doesn’t need my
help and that may also mean she isn’t into guys like
me…
I cant believe i am still this dumb! I have to say
something, I just have to say something. But wait,
what am i going to say first? Oh damn, she’s finished packing up her things. She
isn’t even looking this way…
Oh forget it man, i can sense from a mile when a
girl’s into me. Not just this one…
i will meet some other girl some other time… So she finish picking up everything and continues
with her shopping and now she’s thinking: Is he even interested in me?
If yes, could he be that dumb so as not to notice the
green light i just gave him?
Oh stupid me, i should have allowed him help me
out
Who is he by the way, guess i just have to concentrate on what brought me here. It is possible
he might be gay anyway. She continues with her shopping, finishes, pays for
her purchase and leaves.
Have you ever been in a similar
situation?
It happens to a lot of guys almost everyday. It’s that instance where you find yourself staring at
a girl for a little bit longer than how you would
normally stare at girls and in most of such
instances, chances are she’s also noticed you
and several thoughts about you are also
running through her head. I can hear some of you say “why dont she just
come over so we start a conversation?” No… It
rarely happens that way and when it does, it is
usually one of those fat-confident class of girls. It is us guys who are the aggressors, we do the
“hunting” and girls are supposed to either be
submissive or get dismissed by us. No two ways
to this! If you are still confused on what to say to a girl you
are meeting for the first time, in my next post
tomorrow, i will be writing about how to approach
women. Remember, it isn’t about cramming up lines
that you’ve rehearsed several hundreds of times
when talking to her for the first time but about having your personal laid down logistics that
works with approaching and knowing what you
want from a girl in each instance before you even
approach her. What you want from a girl could be
any of these: Just to chat with her to sharpen your approach
skills
Her phone number
An instant date
A One Night Stand
Or whatever… Just know your target and keep stirring the
conversation towards it. It’s tough living life as a girl though. Imagine
putting tons of work and efforts into looking good
daily so as to be desired more(by us guys
ofcourse!), watching fairytale movies and reading
novels centered around love stories and hopefully
waiting for Prince Charming to come sweep them off their feet someday and then they come close to
this great guy who seems everything like a Prince
Charming but nothing happened between them
simply because Prince Charming didn’t even have the courage to say hi . It sucks! I am not implying that you have to be prince charming to get
girls, all you need is a little brush-up on your
sexiness and an improvement in your Game. Sexiness doesn’t have to do with looks alone,
how you walk, talk and your sense of style all
add up to it and your Game is all about how intelligent and gutful you are when it comes to
dealing with girls. Get these two things in order and
girls will simply find you too irresistible. If you are still the type of guy that waits until ladies
flash them the green light accompanied with the
siren blaring so loud before approaching them, you
will have to brace up and face reality man. Girls fear rejection more than we do, they have far
less control of their lives than we do which
makes them to always seek for approval from
others and they need someone to man up and
make things happen rather than the majority of
girly-guys abounding in our world today. You might be saying “if that’s true, so why put up all
those frontings? why not just let their guards down
when we approach them?” It’s simple. Unknown to
us, we guys also do the same to them girls at times.
Take a look around those girls in your periphery
and you will notice one or two that are just so into you and you know from their behaviours that they
might have feelings for you but you just shove
them off afterall “she’s not my type anyway” and you keep on with your life… Did you get it? If you as the hunter can be choosey when
selecting your preys for certain personal
reasons, dont you also expect them to be
selective when it comes to whom they may fall
for? Now you get it. Those frontings are walls
but know that walls are not there to scare you off, they are there to ensure that only the
worthy ones can make it in. The next time you find yourself thinking whether
or not to approach a girl because of your fear of
her rejecting you in the presence of everyone, go
for it and don’t be scared, she’s just a girl no matter how beautiful or intimidating she may
seem to be, and if she turns you down, who cares? See it as her having some personal or psychological
problems with herself and nothing more. There’s
nothing wrong with you approaching her, other
guys do it everyday and it’s no big deal. You did what a man had to do by approaching her. A
courage that only a few men can boast of in our
world today. -
RE: Why You Should Never Be Scared OfApproaching Women
Emmyvic4ever > 11-06-2013, 07:17 PM
Nice write up bro very original true nd honest keep d good work going -
RE: Why You Should Never Be Scared OfApproaching Women
Taiye > 11-06-2013, 10:50 PM
Cool broda
8-)
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RE: Why You Should Never Be Scared OfApproaching Women
Adamzy > 11-07-2013, 10:19 PM
Welcome Mr Taiye